I just read your post about the missionary you waited for. My missionary left about two weeks ago and I've been doing good but lately I've been missing him like crazy. The first part about your post was the exact same thing as me and jake. I really think he's the one. We fell in love so fast and it's so hard for me to only talk to him once a week. He doesn't want to hold me back from seeing other people but I honestly don't want anyone else. Any advice?
I wish I could sugarcoat the life of a missionary girlfriend but i can’t. Its hard. Especially the first months. I know i was that MG that seemed strong on the outside, that i was doing fine, but as soon as i was alone, i cried. Its so hard when you love someone so much and then they are gone. You only email him once a week and get to hear his voice twice a year. If you feel Jake is the one. Hold on to him. Pray to Heavenly Father. I can’t stress this enough. Ask for His guidance. Read the scripture. Go to church every Sunday. Be spiritually uplifted. Go out with the missionaries. Do missionary work. This is what helped me out while Jared was gone.
Talk to other missionary girlfriends as well. Join the MG Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/groups/234544899932291/ if you haven’t already and talk to the MGs here on Tumblr. Just know that you’re not in it alone.
Now i want you to know, every relationship is different. I had the same problem with Jared about dating other people. Jared didn’t want to hold me back from seeing other people and to be quite honest, i hated the idea. I knew that i didn’t want to date anyone other than him. I was determined to be with him and only him. However, things will happen. One or two guys will come along, i guarantee that. My honest advice on dating, do it. It doesn’t have to be now or in a year. Im not telling you that you have to, but i think it would help. It will help you figure out what you want. It will help you figure out whether Jake truly is the one. You will no longer think Jake is the one, but you will know he is the one. Date other people when you are comfortable to do so. I didn’t date others until Jared had 6 months left on his mission. I know it may seem foolish of me to have done so when he was so close to being home but every time i went out with a boy, it only was a reassurance that i didn’t want to be with anyone other than him. Again, every relationship is different. If you don’t want to date other people, don’t. Its ultimately your decision. Oh and another thing, something i hold to be so very true, if two people are meant to be together, they will end up together. No matter the obstacles you go through, the roadblocks, the disappointments, and the heartaches.The Lord knows you and your missionary. Remember he knows what is best for you and Jake. Trust in Him always, and all will be well.
Waiting for a missionary is tough, it really is, but trust me, the wait is definitely worth it. Seeing that boy again will be the best feeling you could ever feel. I can’t even describe those feelings into words. I sincerely wish you the best with Jake. Don’t ever hesitate to talk to me anon or not. Im here for ya okay (: